Just one of them days…
We all have them as moms. We can’t think straight, we are frustrated, exhausted, tired, fed up. Your child is giving you a sassy attitude. You have a “spirited child.” Your baby is sick. Your baby is teething. You haven’t slept in days. You are having breastfeeding problems. You are having potty training problems. You feel like you are cleaning the house ALL. DAY. LONG. You can’t seem to find time to go out on those fancy dates anymore. Babysitting breaks the bank. You sometimes wish you could go back to your old life because this is NOT what you signed up for. You know. Just one of them days…
No one tells you how much your life will change after becoming a mom. Or maybe they do, but you dismiss it and think it will be different for you. The once care free, adventurous girl now has a baby to look after!? You think to yourself, “What did I get myself into!?” You are going to have these moments as a mom at one point or another. And maybe you are too afraid to talk with someone about it for fear of judgments? When life hits you hard, what do you do?
Be patient with yourself. Remind yourself that these moments are fleeting and time will fly by so fast you will look back at these days with laughter (maybe) ha. No, but seriously picture your baby or toddler as an adult. It will happen faster than you think! It almost brings me to tears thinking about that day. When you get caught up in the “Just one of them days” mentality, remember that you are a GREAT mommy and you matter. Even through the imperfections, frustrations, impatience, and mistakes we make, remember the Grace that is given to us to experience a brand new day. And your children love YOU, not because you are perfect, but because you are their mommy. When you make a mistake tell them you are sorry. Wipe their tears, give them a hug and start brand new. This will teach them such a great lesson. And if you aren’t sure how to handle a situation or are going through a struggle here are 8 things that can help:
- Find time (even if it’s just 5 minutes) to chat with another fellow mommy and let it ALL out!
- PRAY! Get on your knees and ask God for strength + wisdom and cry out to him.
- Seek counsel from older wise woman who has grown up kids already.
- Journal. Just let all of your feelings out in a diary.
- Go out in Nature. A beach. Mountainside. Even the park! This will give you a breath of fresh air and may help bring you the peace that you need to be able to think clearly.
- Read a great book. There are SO many on the market! Ask a close friend for a good suggestion or look some up on Amazon for whatever it is you are going through or need.
- Feed your body well! You will be able to function a bit better when you load yourself with the good stuff. Lots of fruits + veggies (smoothies are quick way to get those in) and some moms have great luck with a magnesium supplement to help calm the body and ease stress.
- Read some mommy blogs or websites that can help encourage you! Finding Joy is one of my favorite finds so far. Check out some of her quotes:
“Nobody told us to be perfect, and yet, oftentimes I can’t stand my own imperfections.
But my kids?
Honestly. They don’t care about those imperfections. Sure they don’t like the rules and bedtime and homework and to finish their dinner before dessert, but they love me for me. They love me because I’m the one waiting in the hallway for them when they are done with school.
They love me because I’m their mom. They don’t think of it as a failing day.
It’s just a day to them”. From the post: For the failing mom days
Her blog is FULL of great posts! Another great excerpt:
“So you may feel like you want to quit. Don’t. Pick up the motherhood towel right now and instead tell yourself you can do this today. You can. You can for your family. Don’t look at how Sally is mothering, or what the facebook status states, or the pinterest picture of the perfect mother. You are the perfect mother for your children today. Do not let the world qualify your motherhood. There is no price tag large enough that would ever illustrate the true value of motherhood. You are an amazing gift to your family.” From the post: Dear Mom who feels like she wants to quit
I hope you feel encouraged and know that you are not in this alone. Do not give up in this wonderful, crazy life as a mommy…the most challenging, yet rewarding job you will ever have. You are all rockstars in my book!